Last night I got a call from a friend of mine on my house phone. This is rare because I usually talk to my entire friend’s via-email or on Skype because of the fact that I am overseas. So, when I do get these calls they are usually for a reason. Anyhow, I could tell my girl had something on her mind, she sounded a little down and her voice wasn’t as chipper as it usually is. She wanted my advice on her relationship with her man, they have been together five years and he still hasn’t asked her the question. Know I can only speak from my experiences and how I feel based on my personal life.

She was frustrated because he knows that she wants to get married and have another child and in her mind her clock is ticking. I can totally understand that. Here’s the deal I don’t understand how people continue to live with another year after year and claim that–that person is the one for them. On the other hand they are not ready to make a valid commitment; God has ordained marriage it is the right thing to do! Once a women has giving you her all, and is respectful of you, faithful to you WHAT IS THE PROBLEM. The question that comes to mind, maybe he is afraid like most men are they think it’s the end of the world for them, you own them, or you’re going to try and change them. They have absolutely the wrong mind-set about marriage. It makes a woman wonder are you waiting for something better to come along, and I am just filling the time meanwhile? Don’t get me wrong, this can work both ways the shoe can definitely be on the other foot. I remember talking to my Bro N Law about the reason why he broke up with his girl, and he said because she acted like she didn’t want to take the relationship to the next level and he wasn’t going to play her game. He wanted more! Again it’s not one-sided.

With my husband and me it was just the right time for both of us. We both wanted to get married, we dated a year and the following year we were saying I do. Going into a relationship I think after a year in some cases not even that long you should know where it is your headed and it should be talked about. You know if he/she is the one for you. Life is too short to string people along you didn’t purchase a puppet so don’t treat them like one. Open communication is detrimental in any relationship and respecting someone else’s needs is also very important, after all if you love someone you want to do what makes them happy right? I am never going to be the girl to tell anyone to leave someone NOPE not me. I just want to see my girl happy and I hope they can work it out, I hope he sees that he has someone special, someone that loves his crazy behind- and he pulls it together before she figures out that someone else will love her the way she deserves him too. If you are, or have been in a relationship for more than a few years and no marriage was intended what are you doing/waiting for? Is marriage important in this day and age to people? Let me know how you all feel about this situation. Also it will let me know if people are reading my blogs.:)

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