Happy big 30!!!

I am very honored  for this opportunity. I have definitely learned a lot from publishing my first book. I honestly can say that I should have took more time to review it, one last time for myself before publishing. That was a wrong move. “You live and you learn, and you push forward.” However, even with it’s small imperfections it has still done very well and the response that I receive from my readers are exceedingly rewarding.

So I will keep you all updated on the release date for this book.

Today my little girl turned three, I remember this day so vividly. I was living abroad in Italy and I had no family around to help me. I did however, have my husband up unto the point of pushing her out and then he kissed me and said “great job honey, I love you.” He was then forcedto leave because he had a huge game he had to attend to. I just laid there and cried I felt so alone and helpless. That entire experience was a nightmare. This story will be share in my upcoming book “ Overseas Wifey”

All and all I am so happy to have my daughter. She is a blessing, all of my kids are. It’s so funny watching them grow but it’s even funnier listening to the things that they have to say. My children bring so much joy into my life.

With that being said….

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SIENNA

 Mommy loves you!!!!

Hey All,

I’ve been meaning to post this long ago when I first received this paper in the mail. I wanted to know how you all felt about the U.S Census using the word Negro? I am not shocked by this at all. Last year in Italy I was called a Negro American. I just thought it was too funny. You see people don’t know what to call us. ( Literally) I know your probably saying to yourself  calling you a Negro is just wrong and not going to cut it. I read that in the 2000 census a large amount of African Americans wrote in Negro as appose to black. So this is why they put it as a option. I’m not sure if they truly did or if that’s the way they will justify using that word. What I was shocked about is we have a Black President and they still got away with using that word. I just think it’s a little to old fashion and they need to remove it as a option. I remember back in 2003 I was working a grave yard shift when a co-worker of mine referred to me as a colored girl. LOL!!! I just started laughing at her and I said ” Girl, no one uses that term colored if you say that to a black person they are going to be real offended” She felt so bad, and had no Idea that she has said something wrong. I had been working with her for awhile and I knew how genuine she was. So that’s why I didn’t get upset automaticly.

Truth is we are American if we were born here then that’s what we are. However, I don’t mind being called African American or Black because I am proud of my roots and culture. I’m actually West Indies, African American, and Irish. Somehow many of us are mixed up with a little bit of something else anyway. So, what did I check????? Drum Roll!!!!

African American of course.. That’s what I am……. There is no need to check each box just because you have a little bit of something else in your blood. Like I said most of us is mixed up with something….

My Daughter was born in Italy, obviously she is African American. However, when she turns eighteen she can make a choice to be Italian or she can choose to be an American. She will not be a African American Italian if she chooses to be a Italian she would be simply that with no color distinction. I honestly don’t know when we will ever not have some sort of issues when it’s regarding our race. This was also my intent for writing the book “Pretty for a black girl” To expose the mindsets of some Individuals. 

Just remember know matter who you are or where you come from you share a little bit of history that relates to someone… God Created us all in his likeness and Image….

P.S    I think they will be removing it!!!!!!      

Please leave your thoughts

The idea of turning thirty never bothered me before, but this morning as I lay in bed, it was all that I could think of. Was I trying to hold on two my twenties with a firm grip as it slips away? I know that thirty is not old, but there is something about thirty that says maturity, growth, AND YOUR NOT IN YOUR TWIENTIES. Time sure does fly by. Sometimes in life we just have to live for the day and even the moment, our lives are so special. With that being said I had to change my thought process really quick. (Sometimes we have to check our self’s) The devil likes to play mind games with you if you let him. So I had to say to myself you are blessed and highly favored, you are married to a beautiful man who loves you, you have healthy beautiful children, and a roof over your head, God has blessed you to be a blessing to others. Know!! Yes you have had some obstacles stand in the way, but that’s okay because you’re still living and it’s never too late to achieve any of your dreams. I had to remind myself in life you have to please yourself and not do things because you want to look pleasing or successful in the eyes of someone else. Sometimes we think we have our lives planed out the way we think it should go. Truth is God is the only author in our lives, so sometimes our plan isn’t Gods plan and it doesn’t mean you’re less than. Everything you go through in life is for a reason. Things will happen for you -in do season..

That’s what I have to remind myself.

So!!!!  Thirty I hear you knocking and I’m ready to let you in………

 I keep hearing thirty is the new twenty J j/k

We hope you support our efforts and vision….Be blessed

She was cursing in front of him as if he is not a man of GOD. I find that very disrespectful beyond measure. “Monique funny is one thing, and disrespectful is another. Shame on you for your lack of respect”. Then it got worse she wanted him to repeat what she said, by then I had-had enough and turned the channel I didn’t even get to see him preform because I was in shock, due to her abrupt behavior. The Media never surprises me anymore, it just shows me that it’s getting much worse as time goes on. Wake up people! ( be careful what you do, mocking God’s anointed)

What do you all think of Mr. Sapp not saying anything??? 

Do you think Monique was out of line???

 Come on Christians make some noise..

 However, this should be a wake up call for many people out there. Stop letting looks defined everything about a person. What happened to getting to know an individual before your taking her panties off. Everyone has been young and naive once upon a time. Hey!! I’m guilty!  But, why are some of you grown men/women still making these irrational and immature decisions. I saw a friend of mine inquire about a woman on face-book that he knows nothing about, granted there is nothing wrong with that. However, he wanted to hook up with her and not knowing she is a prostitute. Would she tell him this? NO!!! would her friends???? No!!! You cant just jump on someone because you think their cute!!! We have to look past the physical ” you better get to know their mental”

This inquiry was not through me, I thought I would make that clear.

We all have to change our mindsets become free of the materialistic and looks mentality. We are all just souls that live within. What kind of spirit/soul are you trying to be with? What is even more thought-provoking and disappointing is that some of the men that were leaving comments to this video said “man I would have hit it raw” What!!!!!! Did they not hear this correctly? Are they that naive and fixated over sex that they don’t care?? People wake up !! This is a cold world we are living in. Wise up and take responsibility for you actions. Stand for something and stop falling for anything. Sex sells and is promoted every where. Yes, Sex feels good and every one wants to have it. Sex is not and should not be everything, and it is definitely not worth dieing for. I urge you to think about who you are sleeping with take time and get to know a person. The best thing you can do is be abstinent wait until your married -seriously it will all be worth it.

Woman!!!! You see how easily some women just throw them selves at men?? Choose to be a woman of quality ” make him wait” if he loves you he will.

Men!!!!  Stop thinking your so tough, and can have every girl you want. You may, but what kind of girl do you have????

Think!!!!!

Have you thought about your New Years Resolution?

I love how they kept it so real and relatable for many African Americans. The movie shows how we usually do struggle and try so hard to take care of ourselves and others we forget about finding happiness for our self. I love how this movie had implemented a positive msg; without portraying someone who did not represent how most African Americans live. It was an excellent movie; it made me so proud to watch. I actually shed a tear or two. The movie had an array of different emotions it was upbeat and humorous and it gave you something to think about, it also gave hope to every little black girl who goes to see it. It was very insightful and inspirational. The kids loved it, and I think I loved it even more. If you have not seen this movie you should defiantly go check it out………